Working as a book reviewer, I read books not for passion only but due to my work. And His Secret Obsession is one of those books; I don’t fit in the expected demographic of its readers. That’s the fun part, right?
I can tell you that this book is written about my kind of men, which are a single straight man who has been in the dating game and had relationships. It is easy to check authenticity.
The first time I heard the phrases like “His Secret Obsession Scam” parading the internet, I don’t believe it. I found some interesting points that justify its price. Besides, I wanted to know more about the mystery called “love”.
I have taken several courses on relationships online due to my interest in studying online, I think this ebook has some attractive takes on this everlasting enigma.
His Secret Obsession: A Brief Overview.
James Bauer is the author of His Secret Obsession, which is designed for women who want to improve their relationships by understanding more about men.
Let’s start with the basic information of James Bauer. He is a trained psychologist and relationship expert. So definitely, he is the perfect one to write about males in the context of relationships.
What men Secretly want, another book of him covers very familiar topics. So, he has experience in writing. Honestly, you can find in this book a more detailed approach to the burning question – what do men really want?
Of course, in the market of self-help books, you can easily find thousands of books such as How to talk to anyone by Leli Lowndes and the classic in the genre How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
In His Secret Obsession, James writes about something called ‘Hero Instinct’. Clearly, it covers the masculine nature of men including the primal instincts of men (sex, hunger, and thirst). The things make men, well, MEN.
Leaving all jokes away, James gives very refined and comprehensive information of this trait and also provides women with some insightful ideas for how to stimulate it,
In addition, he also talks about other traits of men psychology extensively and you can get it if you buy the His Secret Obsession. He shares some techniques or indications that can help you guide your relationship better.
Pros
- Extremely well informed and composed writing.
- Brings a lot of new ideas to the table like this elaborate discussion on ‘Hero Instinct’
- The author is not some unprofessional money grab but has actually insightful ideas about the topic.
Cons
- The manipulative undertone bothered me more than it should have.
- Relationship Material
You may think this list includes classic checklist items showing that the man is perfect for cuddling and go in hibernation with. But instead, it’s the other way around. These are several characteristics that make men think you are ‘relationship material’.
The Private Island
Think that if you get stuck alone on an island, instead of trying to get rid of it you love it so much and want to have babies with it. Okay, that goes too far; but you get the idea. Ladies if you want to be that island for your man, this book can help you do that.
The Ex-Back Signal
No one likes breakups. It’s a huge mess and you get emotionally distraught, yet James has some points for particularly reluctant women who are not ready to take the next step. Because I have experienced it, I am not judging. Anyway, these signals and phrases will make your ex crawl back to you – if that’s your expectation.
The Glimpse Phase
It’s maybe one of the best things that His Secret Obsession can teach females. Imagine you met him for the first time and lo and behold, you want him to be really attracted to you. These techniques will make that man wanting to know more about you.
The Damsel in Distress Signal
Everyone loves attention and no one excepts that. Therefore, if you are finding ways to make your man pay more attention to you, then these are some methods you can try.
I Own You
As negative and manipulative as it might sound, it isn’t. It can help to make your man open more to you to share his insecurities and secrets with you.
Silent Action Signal
It’s time for the ‘Hero Instinct’! Yes, I spoke that out loud like He-man as I’m writing. Anyway, these skills show you how to use your hidden talents and attribute to trigger your partner’s hero-instinct.
Who is it written for? Why and when should YOU read it?
His Secret Obsession is obviously written for women due to their curious mind about what is in the head of a man.
His Secret Obsession is a great book with valuable information and extremely insightful ideas in it. It is written well, comprehensively, and truly. James Bauer is knowledgable in this field and you can learn somethings even when your relationship is sailing smoothly.
There are some interesting things in His Secret Obsession, so I don’t recommend it but kinda nudge that you should read it even if you a grown man.
This book also amused me and made me think of myself. And you can find some humor in it too.
In general, I recommend His Secret Obsession with females and curious bored males like me. This book is well written, well informed, spicy and an easy read.
Weighing it out!
Although the book belongs to a “cheesy” and cash grabber genre that feeds on insecurity, it has several insightful ideas.
I have to say that I don’t know what my expectation was. I always felt the manipulative undertone and never felt like it was truly different even after being exciting. It made more sense but still, the “feeding-on-insecurity” was always there.
Final Words
With that, I hope you can find the answers to your questions about His Secret Obsession in this review. And it helps you decide to buy it or not.
